An Intro To: Sex Toys
Illustration Taarika John
There is a big world of sex toys waiting to be devoured and if you’re just entering the market it can be easy to get overwhelmed. I have spent hours of my life in exhibitions, meetings, conferences, training sessions and even just trawling the internet for information on the latest and greatest but it always basically comes down to the following styles; internal & g spot, external & clitoral, rabbit, anal, wearable/hands free and health/wellness toys. So, Before I go into the those more the most important question to ask is.. how do you masturbate? By that I mean where do you find yourself going for pleasure. Do you feel most stimulation from your clitoris? From penetration? Do you usually need both?
If you’re unsure, play around a bit! Explore your body! Find out what makes you tick. Not only will this give you a new appreciation for the magic that is your body, it will guide you in the direction of what type of toy you will get maximum pleasure from.
YOU LIKE INTERNAL STIMULATION
VIBRATORS- A vibrating toy used for stimulation and penetration. A lot of internal vibrators these days have a curve to them for g spot stimulation, but there is still some hot debate over its existence. If you haven’t found yours yet, don’t despair. The illusive patch of nerves sits in a different spot in each persons body, check out the post about the female anatomy here and have a feel around. There are also vibrators on the market with a very distinct curve, designed to help you pin point exactly where yours is!
DILDOS- A non vibrating toy used for penetration, usually phallic shaped. Some people underestimate the power of a dildo. Used solo or with a partner they can be great for simulating penetration.
PULSATORS- A thrusting toy used for penetration. Pulsators are relatively new in the timeline of sex toys. Created by Fun Factory, the revolutionary toys have a piston motor instead of a vibrating motor replicating a thrust and making for a more “realistic” experience. *review coming soon
Different types of vibrators, dildos and pulsators
YOU LIKE CLITORAL STIMULATION
I say clitoral but I also want to point out the word external. The tip of the clit is folded into the labia but it has a big juicy body hidden below, so it makes sense that labial stimulation feels sa good. Clitoral stimulation toys are also great to use with a partner during foreplay and intercourse!
MASSAGERS- External toys with a larger surface area and sometimes shaped to “fit with the curves” aka snuggle the labia, which is my jam.
SUCTION- Newer on the scene than even the thrusters, this incredible technology gives a sensation like nothing else. I’ve read it is supposed to simulate oral sex and no, it doesn’t. BUT a soft little vacuum on your 8,000 nerve endings is sure to make you cum. Always works here. *points to vag*
BULLETS- The modern take on the OG pocket rocket. These are small, sleek and compact (always something I’ve imagined marketed to the international business woman) and sometimes tapered for direct clitoral contact. Generally the shape of well, a bullet.
WANDS- The Body Massager! They mightn’t look it but wands are quite versatile, you can use them for intense clitoral stimulation, buy any number of attachments for internal use OR use it for its original purpose and massage your neck and shoulders.
Different types of massagers, suckers, bullets, wands and wand attachments
YOU WANT BOTH
RABBITS- Made infamous by Samantha Jones, the rabbit boasts dual stimulation. Most rabbits these days will have minimum of two motors, one in the shaft and one on the clitoral stimulator, then there are some specialty rabbits, with suckers on the clit stim and thrusters for the internal. Wowee!
Different types of rabbit vibrators
YOU WANT ANAL STIMULATION
Yeesssss. Anal plugs and beads come in both vibrating and non vibrating but before you put anything in there, PLEASE start here.
PLUGS- Silicone, metal, glass, unless it has a flange, don’t put it up your ass. I just made that up, you’re welcome. Plugs are great for anal training and giving the feeling of fullness without committing to something big.
BEADS- Your anal cavity is filled with nerve endings and because the tissue between it and your vagina is so thin, stimulating the anus can second hand stimulate the “legs” of your clitoris!! Beads are designed to be moved, in and out during play, engaging all of those nerve endings inside and out of your butt. Delicious.
Different styles of anal plugs and beads
YOU WANNA BE HANDS FREE
COUPLES TOYS- We-Vibe broke the internet with the first ever couples toy designed to be worn during penetration and paved the way for pleasure. Now there are a ton of different couples toys on the market and that makes me happy.
WEARABLE- Seen in many films, remote control eggs, panties etc. These products are designed to be worn discreetly under your clothes and controlled with a remote or app. Being able to play in public like this can be thrilling and playful, adding spice into any sex life. Even if you’re solo *wink
Different vibrating panties, eggs and dual stimulators
Ok, you can digest all that and when you’re ready check out part two.
